Parenting is a beautiful journey of life. It needs a lot of investment in terms of time, emotions, energy, and finance. And it is undoubtedly a lifetime commitment. Parenting comprising of stages, styles and transition phases, has to balance well to become reasonably successful. But quite often, at one point or the other, there are always rough patches. Some are fortunate with biological children while some others have their destiny attached to adoption, for some reason or the other. Parenting a biological child is far different from parenting an adopted child. Every bright side has a dark side, as believed, there always are many unpredictable moments in parenting, some happy, some sad while some heartbreaking.
The adoption process and procedure begins when the big idea hits you. Then on you get carried away with your emotions. However, before proceeding, a little awareness on the emotions entailing adoption can help you decide on your adoption plans and prepare you for your future course of actions.
1. Are you prepared to parent a child who is not your blood and flesh?
Nature and Nurture are two important elements to ponder. If it is your nurture that has shaped your child, you are the luckiest parent. On the contrary, if genes dominate? There is every chance that you may regret your decision of adopting a child.
2. Do you have that extra amount of patience, perseverance, and endurance?
It takes a lot of patience, perseverance, commitment and dedication to parenting a child whose history in most of the cases are unknown. Kids who are in orphanages are the ones that are abandoned and the child is always vulnerable at every stage of its life.
3. Your preparedness: emotionally and financially
You ride on a roller coaster of emotions, each moment, each day and during each phase of parenting. The child as said earlier is always at risk, mentally and physically and there may be chances for you to spend on the treatments. Your emotional and financially stability are the essentials as the child is your responsibility.
4. Parental expectations have to be very flexible and minimal
It was your choice to give a life to a homeless child and your generosity can help you navigate. It is always a one-sided effort. Hence, the expectation has to be very minimal. Imperfection and to be light-heart, taking in your stride what comes your way can help you bond with your child.
5. Have future plans for not just the child, for you too
Most of the adopted children have mild disorders related to attachment in the initial stages what then continues to affect the child in their later years too. Academically, he can lag behind and is different in many ways when compared to other children of his age. Hence a plan for his future and for you too has to be in places to avoid any future complications.
Understanding the above points thoroughly can help you decide about adoption.