Ending a relationship can be very painful to deal with. When you are going through a breakup after a long-term relationship, it can get extremely overwhelming to cope up and lead your daily life normally. Many minor things suddenly change subtly and it becomes excruciatingly difficult to adjust to them. Being single again can be quite a tedious thing, not to mention emotionally draining.
These eight steps will help you cope up with a breakup and prepare you for being single again and rocking it.
The first and the most important thing to do post-breakup is to accept it and not ponder over things time and again. Even if you were not the one to end the relationship, do not waste your time thinking and re-thinking about what went wrong. If it’s over, there must be a reason for it and the best you can do is to let go of it to make way for a fresh new start.
- Think Positive
Breakups are harsh. But that doesn’t necessarily mean you have to bottle up hatred and negative feelings about a failed relationship or your ex. People make mistakes and when flooded with emotions, it can really end up hurting someone badly. Don’t let that moment or phase etch in your heart and soul so deeply that you fume out hatred towards your ex forever. Learn to forgive and forget. Eradicating all the negativity about a failed relationship and your ex is essential to embrace happiness and make way for future possibilities.
- Quality Time with Friends
Although not true for everyone, but sometimes we tend to sidetrack our friends when we are too involved in a relationship. Breakups are a great reminder that your world and life does not (and should not) revolve around one person. Go out, meet your friends, spend quality time with them, have fun together and before you know it your failed relationship will be buried in the past.
- Find Yourself
You are the one healing from a breakup – make it count and take time off to do things that you enjoy doing. Consciously or otherwise, we often make a lot of compromises while being in a relationship. Post-breakup is a great time to rejuvenate and get back to being “you”. Be it binge-watching a television series, going on a shopping spree or cooking something extravagant just for yourself- be the boss and pamper yourself well.
- Learn Something
The sudden transition from ‘We’ to ‘Me’ often leads to extended hours of boredom and with nothing better to do, our mind races to unnecessary events of the past. Utilize this time to learn something new. Learn a new language, learn to play a musical instrument, learn cooking or anything else that catches your interest. Not only are you making the best use of time, but also developing some skills, which you can cherish, life-long.
- Be Busy
Keeping yourself busy is very important while coping with a bad breakup. Watch movies, read books, re-organize your house, work for a social cause – anything and everything counts.
Travelling can do wonders when you are fighting back from a bad breakup and it helps you re-discover yourself. You will see new places, meet new people, and learn many things and come back enriched with a horde of memories.
“Travel brings power and love back into your life” – Rumi.
- Be Happy
Don’t let a failed relationship dishearten or emotionally cripple you. The relationship was a failure, not you. Always remember you are an amazing person and there are so many people waiting eagerly just to meet you. Be happy, be excited – there is nothing that time can’t heal and the possibilities are unending.
Surviving through could have been easy if you had identified the warning signs of your ending relationship. However, there is always the next time. And it is good to be armed with information about stages of relationships and how to maintain the relationship, that can help you accept the reality of life.